Toxic relationships are dangerous. Do you have certain parameters regarding relationships that you would consider dealer breakers?
No relationship is perfect, but having boundaries, realistic ones, are a healthy way to protect yourself from a toxic situation, such as toxic relationships.
Now I’m not talking about deal breakers like height, weight, age, and details like that. And you have to know what your boundaries are.
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Here are 12 relationship deal breakers that you should consider when deciding if this particular person is worthy of your time
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1. Abusive relationships
A “no-brainer”, right?
Not exactly!
When one enters or gets involved in an abusive relationship, they often stay for a reason. It doesn’t mean necessarily that it is a reasonable one. But people may stay because they have children involved, they have been threatened that something will happen if they leave, no self -confidence, no finance, etc. There are many reasons why. You never know one’s story. So, don’t judge.
A healthy relationship is about respect and being treated the way you want to be treated. Read that again. You should be treated the way you want to be treated.
If you allow someone to go beyond your boundaries, you are giving them the “okay” to treat you that way.
You should never take mental, verbal, or physical abuse from anyone.
2. Plans are consistently canceled
Is your partner or friend constantly ditching at the last minute?
Sure it happens from time to time. But not always.
If you have a long-term partner doing this, there may be deeper issues in your relationship you need to discuss.
4. Substance abuse problems
Going out with a friend to drink every once in a while is okay. Some people unwind this way.
But here is the key: If a partner or friend NEEDS a substance to have fun, there is an issue.
Substance abuse is one of the biggest relationship deal breakers on the list.
With substance abuse often comes:
- Mistreatment of you
- They become untrustworthy
- They waste money
- And poor decisions are made that may hurt you
5. Your partner is unfaithful
If they are cheating on you, put your foot down immediately! Otherwise, you are telling them their behavior is okay.
If they don’t love you and can’t stay faithful to you, dump them! They are not worth your time.
6. They fight unfairly
We’ve all said stupid things during an argument. But that doesn’t give you the right to be a jerk about it.
If any of this happens, please walk away:
- Your past is brought up with the INTENT to hurt you
- They demean you by calling you rude names and degrade you
- If they “gaslight” you and make you feel crazy
- They attack YOU instead of the issue
- The silent treatment is used
Now, I’m not talking about breaks to calm down. I am talking days of no talk and forcing you to.
Storytime:
My ex, who was a narcissist, used the silent treatment on me a lot.
We had a mirror in the bathroom he would write notes on to remind him in the morning. When I woke to get ready for work one morning, after a few days of the silent treatment, he wrote on the mirror “Wake me up at 7 a.m., I have an important meeting.” So I wrote back on the mirror at 7 a.m. “It is 7 a.m.” 🤣😂
Healthy relationships are about open communication with fair conflict resolutions. Not seeing who can hurt the other.
7. You have a weird feeling about the relationship
When you are around your friend or partner, do you feel good? Do you have anxiety? Do they make you question your self-worth?
If you have the gut feeling something is not right, you’re probably right. This is a toxic relationship.
8. You both want different things in life
Sometimes you can love someone but you both want different things.
You may want kids and they don’t. Perhaps you might like to spend money but they don’t. They may want to live on the West Coast but you want to live on the East Coast.
Even if you get along, you may see there are some things that may prevent you from being together happily.
9. They’re very selfish
Of course, we can all be selfish from time to time. But, some people take it way too far.
If you feel:
- You are giving all of your time to your spouse/friend and nothing in return
- Every conversation is made about them, and they are always the victim
- They take advantage of your kindness
Let them go! They are narcissistic! Trust me, I married one.
10. They’re jealous
There is such a thing as “healthy jealousy” and that is okay. It inspires couples to treat each other better and not take advantage of each other.
However, if they’re stalking your social media accounts and your phone, there are issues!
This is a sign of their own insecurities and could develop into abusive behavior.
11. You don’t have the same values
Opposites attract, right?
It may be true, but it doesn’t mean they make the best partners.
If you are passionate about one thing and your friend and partner are on a different page, this may cause problems.
If you have opposing values, just be aware it’s going to take some work and there is always a possibility you and your relationship may not work.
12. You’re constantly fighting
Are you always fighting, or feel like you are constantly fighting?
Arguing is healthy to some degree and even happens with the best of couples.
Communication is key when it comes to happy and healthy relationships. But with that, a unit needs to :
- Build empathy
- Resolve problems
- Talk respectfully
The Bottom Line
Life is way too short to spend with someone who is not worth your time.
Trust me. I am telling you from a long and painful personal experience.
If your partner/friend is controlling, annoying, or won’t acknowledge you, it’s time to leave!
Will this be an easy decision? it may or may not, but it will be so worth it!
Take care and Think Me First 
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